Overcome the fear of singleness
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1. You regularly let his/her inconsideration and indiscretions slide.
Let's say he/she's rude, mean, arrogant, and most importantly, treats you poorly. Rather than get out of that shitty relationship, you decide to stay, thinking he/she loves you (or has the potential to). You don't want to give up on finding love, right? Just because he/she's convenient does not mean you should tolerate bad behavior or abuse! Having a relationship is pointless if you're forcing happiness.
2. You're always making excuses for him/her.
You have been mollywhopped by rants and raves about your worthlessness. But you still find a reason to defend your man/woman's honor because you're so scared of him/her leaving. You would rather pardon the behavior than confront the obvious fact that he/she's not worth the emotional and mental investment. Make excuses or make changes, the choice is yours.
3. You settle immediately.
You haven't been single longer than a week in your whole adult life. "Anyone will do." This includes the guy/girl who never showers, the man/woman who constantly interrupts you, or the well-known drug addict around your neighborhood. If everyone is good enough for you, you clearly have no standards.
4. You confuse intimacy with love.
Sex is one way in which people give and receive love, although it is very important, it is not the only way to develop or express intimacy. Maybe he/she told you beforehand that he/she wasn't looking for anything serious but you convinced yourself he/she might have feelings for you anyway. Not playing the blame game here, but either way, showing signs of desperation is not a good choice. Remember, "Your naked body should only belong to those who fall in love with your naked soul." - Charlie Chaplin
What follows are six healthy ways to focus on yourself first. As you practice these tips, you'll also learn how they increase your probability of finding a great partner. The more you work on these methods, the more likely it is love will happen when you least expect it.
1. Live your life
Potential dates are attracted to people who have a zest for life, and when you are living your life out loud, your enthusiasm is contagious. No one should ever have to feel responsible for someone else’s happiness, including you.
2. Be happy with yourself
Find your happiness by enjoying the simple things in life. Be grateful for what you have and honor your values.
3. Surround yourself with supportive and positive people
Spend time with family and friends who are uplifting, and seek out new friends who leave you feeling positive. Life can be hard but when you look at the brighter side of life, your interactions with everyone will be positive and more enjoyable.
4. Relax and let things unfold naturally
This doesn't mean to not do anything. Finding a partner the “natural” way simply means being clear on the qualities and traits you want in a partner.
5. Be your best self
Be the best version of you. The people you attract are based on where you're at in your life.
6. Love yourself completely
Instead of trying to hide negative things, accept and embrace them. The more you love yourself, the more your future boyfriend/girlfriend will love you. He/she will treat you with the affection and respect you deserve.
Remember to Dream, Sparkle, and Shine!
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